In the internet age we hear constantly about globalization, the interdependence of nations throughout the world. We hear of famine and war and the needs of the people of the world. If you go to church, you are likely to hear of missionaries who need your hard earned dollars. This is absolutely all true and all good causes to spend our money. But before we can give to the world we have to be selfish.
I have talked to people who really take the mentality of giving to heart, and that is a great thing! The problem exists where they give so much that they cannot afford food, lights, shelter and other basic necessities for their own family. They aren’t planning for their own future. They may not say it aloud, but they are basically saying “if I give money to other people now, when I need it someone will give to me.” That is a lovely thought, but I do not believe that at all. Your ideals may differ from mine in this area but it is important to realize that we cannot rely on everyone else. This interdependence makes us weaker as a nation and as families.
Don’t get me wrong, I am all for trade, and working with friends, neighbors, and even other countries to help make our lives and our world a better place, but not to the extent where I subject my own family and our future to unnecessary risk. Before giving to others, I feel you have to take care of the basic necessities of your home. If your kids need food (not McDonald’s or some other luxury food but real basic necessity), then you better provide for your kids before sending your money somewhere else to help someone else. I am a Christian and certainly believe that God will provide for people who give to the poor and the church, but with that I do not believe He calls us to be stupid about it. We have to be a little selfish before we can help others, or we doom ourselves in the process of trying to help others.
Being dad means being selfish at times.